So, now valentines day is approaching, and my planning, controlling self had pinned all sorts of fun ideas for valentines for "Lucy" to make...except Lucy didn't actually want to make those. (She did fall in love with the princess valentines box, so we worked on that while watching the olympics pairs skating on Tuesday evening:) And then I quickly found myself losing patience over the project. (The planner in me analyzes the quickest way to complete a project so more things can get done.) So we just had to walk away from it...and I realized how ridiculous I was being. Why on earth would I want to hinder my child's own creativity? But at the same time, Lucy wanted to cut out hearts for her classmates, and we were getting these mutated ovals instead that she wasn't happy with (Have you ever tried to cut out hearts with safety-scissors? Probably not, because you know better!) So tonight, we sat down after mommy had a nice long breath, and I realized my 6 year old is quite capable of using a "normal" pair of scissors. I also realized that while I didn't need to take over this project, I could still help her attain what she had envisioned. So, I traced 18 hearts that she cut out. And instead of mommy trying to rush through the project, I sat there and let her go at her own pace. And instead of mommy trying to take over the project, I sat there until she asked for my help. (I did go ahead and tape all of the candy in place, but mostly because we were very limited on tape today since a certain 6 year old is obsessed with taping things...anyone else have to constantly switch which drawer they keep their scotch tape in to try and hide it??;-) And as I looked at the finished project, I smiled. It was was so much fun to help my daughter accomplish HER plan, instead of trying to enforce one of my own. And while they aren't the next biggest pinterest idea to sweep the Valentine pin boards, they certainly are what this Mommy considers a work of art--because they are Lucy's art.
Does this mean I'm going to stop analyzing the checkout lanes at the grocery store? Um...doubtful! But it does mean I realize I don't need to be in charge and in control all of the time.
Okay...maybe even most of the time!;-)
And speaking of homemade Valentines, Lucy's classmates aren't the only ones who received a "Lucy one of a kind" this week. In fact, both of my kiddos made me special Valentines this week. Seriously, I had tears in my eyes when I saw my sweet boy's handprint: